Family Anger

"Well, I'm not as angry anymore so things are harder to talk about. It was easier for me to bring things up with him when I was angry............. Initially the anger increased after he stopped drinking. I think this is because it was not a way I knew. For all these years he drank, I hurt, and this hurt eventually became anger. It protected me from his unpredictability and gave me a kind of foundation to work from when dealing with everything. I mean I couldn't walk around hurting all the time - I would of been a babbling mess. So basically, I have had to reinvent myself because I depended on my anger for so long to get me through his drinking that I lost me." (Wife of recovering alcoholic)