"One of the most valuable tools I learned in recovery was to give with no strings attached. When I was drinking my acts of kindness were loaded with expectations and this created a lot of resentments in me. It took awhile for me to learn the trick of giving and expecting nothing in return. How I did it was to imagine that I owed life a debt for all that I took when I was drinking. Everyday I woke up and set out to pay back this debt with acts of kindness. I would not let my head hit the pillow at night until I had done at least five random acts of kindness for others that day. I did this until it became second nature and I understood what it meant to truly give." - R.D.