"Lack of self-confidence helped me in my recovery.... Where those with confidence chose to go it on their own, my lack of self-confidence forced me to depend on community, faith and God. This has made all the difference in my life of sobriety." - Mike
"Today a good friend in the program who had been struggling with sobriety got out of the psych ward because of an attempted suicide. He came up to me and said that overall he is doing ok and the good news is that at least he didn't drink and his sobriety was still intact.... I was deeply hurt and pissed. I stared him straight in the eye and said... Next time drink! I would rather have you drunk than dead!" - M
When you enter recovery after deciding to quit drinking, you may feel defenseless and empty inside. You may not know who you are or what you want. You will be looking for any shred of meaning or cure to lesson the loneliness and despair inside. Be careful what you grab. It has to be yours and relevant to your life. In the end, remember, you have to believe your life will be improved when you quit drinking or no change will occur.
It's not denial, but rather a difference of opinion.
- A good therapist must find motivation where only despair is seen. Owning accountability for resistance in addiction treatment is a way the clinician can understand how their own views may differ from the clients in terms of motivation to change.
"It is naive to think that the alcoholic hasn't noticed their drinking. Regurgitating negative consequences to them does not promote motivation. Find what they value and help them problem solve to it."
There are birds outside today. They are puppies playing In the snakey coral cactus. They hup and puff and flutter And swing Matily And ballet the needles. Then they run across the roof Like little lizards. Oh how I could too Trusy merrily On the arm of the prickles, Inches from the down looked snakes head. What is trust without no-trust? will I ever move a muscle, While these two feed bread crumbs to each other? - Todd, Diaphonous
"Taking a personal inventory is a powerful way to bring to light the values, beliefs and innocence we once had and how our addictions destroyed them. When we remember who we were and what has been lost we can then start to grab ahold of who we want to become again."
"To my friend in detox: I stood strong for as long as my will allowed, and then I pushed further. Death did not follow as my fears predicted, but rather an irrational calm of a spiritual nature overtook me. There became no separation between me and you, only the struggle." - A Soldier